Selfimage II, Seen by others :: 12:02
Tally Ho!
Jeez, the input has been intresting, on both windows and then elsewhere. Juho from past still with, Emma, M and anonyms Thank you all for your help. On the Johari you guys surprised me big time and made me feel reaal good about myself. On nohari the feedback has been very valuable. While pondering what you guys have said, I put the process in the back of the head and did a test.
While playing with the Which Fantasy/SciFi Character Are You - test it turned out I am:
Aragorn. Shouldn’t probably get too cocky about this, but it was nice… Now that somebody did Angelique test in this fashion that would claim my humble self as Geoffrey de Peyrac, I’d truly be happy 
This is actually quite funny as yesterday I received a mail where the writer saw me both as a chivalric person (Which I’m for anyone’s information not) and as a someone to whom helplesness would appeal to. Though this letter didn’t particularily cheer me up, I couldn’t help but be rather taken with this chivalric bit. I’ve never before been characterised as chivalric. Not by myself and most certainly not by anyone else. My dear wife didn’t fell for this kind of fluffy bit, I guess, and friends have been too close to experience anything like this. As of people who are not friends, they wouldn’t have had even as much chanses.
Though a number of nice characteristics can be seen in your’s truly (Juho, you were much too kind in your estimation…) , chivalric is much too big of a word to use with me. It incorporates such virtues and ideals that I couldn’t hope to live up to them in any case. Besides I don’t have looks for it, if I was riding a white horse, I’d rather likely would be wearing intresting helmet. Sly, Clever scoundrel all seem much more familiar, but I have to admit it felt good.
Then to this other assumption/ belief it was so far off that it left me flabbergasted, astonished even. Helplesness isn’t appealing to me, quite the contrary. Helpless people make me awkward and the characteristic is somewhat disgusting (Drunken people, hysteric people… ,and this is not be read as a person just having a fit of such, but being these kind of things consistently, put me very much ill at ease). Helpless people (on personal level) make me look at them again just to check if they actually wore their victim outfit and then the vicinity for some of my more sinister npc-friends. People who have tried to impress me with helplesness I’ve consistently let down. I have thought this pretty obvious since it doesn’t happen or at least I can’t perceive if someone is trying such a thing. I can’t think of a single person in my social vicinity to whom I’d attribute this description, a single person who would have impressed me with such a thing. I don’t know any helpless people. No, helplesness just doesn’t do it to me, I think intelligence, perceptiveness, wit, being genuinely intrested in my person (let’s face it, in relationships this factor is important) , being able to share some of my important things are pretty much higher in the list of things that appeal to me. Warm, Kind and Caring personalities also seem to make the trick (Juho, G, G’s Husband, Miss Bear… list goes on, just the first few who came to mind) actually these traits seem to be the thing although they are not a requirement. Anyways… just tried to say, your standard DID* is not a D for me. Being a people person, and usually intrested in affairs of my loved ones, friends and aquitances (ie. nosy and curious) and not being devoid of compassion (yeah, if I can I like to make them feel better) I can undestand this misunderstanding, but it is just that a misundestanding.
Well to put it shortly, Thank you for the high compliment of the first part but I still rather subscribe to the description coined by Anu and Mikko several years back, Affable Arsehole, no matter how nice it would be to be seen as a man of chivalry, a gentle man, that is not me and if you (the general you, passive you) expect something else, I’m afraid I’ll be leaving you disappointed if not now then later. I can be a nice guy, but with limited patience and social stamina, I have my limits.
* Damsel In Distress
